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Dating Tips
All of our team want your DoubleDateFirst experience to be fantastic, so below are a few tips that we hope will help you have fun and feel safe.
Safer Dating
Arranging to Meet
- Never disclose personal contact details until you really know someone.
- Don't let anyone pressure you into giving more information than you wish
to reveal.
- Find out as much as you can about other members so that you feel comfortable communicating with them before you set up a date.
- Set up an email account exclusively for use on DoubleDateFirst. Free, web-based email services like Hotmail and Yahoo are ideal for this and you don't have to give your real name in the email address.
- If you decide to share your telephone number, use a mobile phone as it gives you more flexibility and anonymity.
- If you feel uncomfortable about another member, cease contact and report them to us support@DoubleDateFirst.com.
DoubleDateFirst always advocates safety and common sense.
Meeting for the first time
- Meet in a populated, public place and stay somewhere busy where you remain visible to others. Arrange to meet at a specific landmark.
- Be punctual - even five minutes early.
- Don't drink too much and never leave your drink unattended, even if you just need to visit the bathroom.
- Don't arrange for dates to pick you up from your home. Make your own travel arrangements. Equally, don't accept a lift home.
- Tell someone where you are going and give them details of the people you and your friend are going to meet. When you get there, give them a quick call to let them know things are OK.
- Always have a contingency plan. If something unexpected happens, make sure you can leave quickly and easily and that there are people close by who can help if necessary.
- Take your mobile phones and check that they are working and fully charged.
- It can take time to get to know others properly. If a person is truly interested in you, they will respect that.
- Stay in control and do not be forced into doing something you would not normally do.
- If you have to cancel, be considerate and give those who you were going to meet plenty of notice.
- Do you want to meet them again? If you are interested in seeing your dates then say so. Don't promise to call unless you mean it.
- If you don't want to meet either or both of your dates again, just thank them for a lovely evening and leave it at that. Trust your instincts and don't arrange to meet up again if you're not sure.
If either of you suspect that other members are abusing DoubleDateFirst's services then please let us know at the first available opportunity by emailing support@DoubleDateFirst.com.
Dating Tips
Here are some dating do's and don'ts:
- Keep an open mind. Dating is fun and you will meet all sorts of people. You might not think that you could fall for someone who enjoys hang gliding, but it could be a great new hobby for you as well.
- Don't take yourself too seriously. The dating game is meant to be fun and not a chore. Don't make your date feels as though they are in a job interview. Laughter is what you're aiming for!
- Know what you want. Are you looking for friendship, a steady relationship or marriage? Make sure you date people with similar expectations as you.
- Be yourself. There's nothing wrong with trying to look your best on a date but don't be something you're not. If you're happy in jeans and a t-shirt, don't go in a suit. You won't feel relaxed or give your date the right impression.
- Pay attention! Listen to what you're date has to say and you'll find the conversation flows. Don't become a motor mouth though and dominate the evening. It's about getting to know each other!
- If at first you don't succeed - stay positive! There is a saying about kissing frogs - expect to date a few before you find your princes or princesses. Even if you don't find the love of your life straight away you'll be meeting new people and making friends.
- Stay sober. Keep in control of how much you drink. A few drinks can help break the ice but no one wants to be stuck with a drunken fool.
- Lunch date. Dates don't have to be at dinner time. Lunch dates are great too as they give you a limited amount of time, are informal and you can always meet up later as well if all goes well.
- Back up. Have a few conversation starters in the back of your mind to avoid uncomfortable silences. See Stuck for Words for a few tips.
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